When haunted by regrets, we don’t forgive others or ourselves. We mentally replay events, but it never gets better. Fact is, it’s easy to say Don’t be haunted by regrets, but hard to do!
This blog post contains my personal LinkedIn posts for August 8 through August 14, 2022.
Define “Peace of Mind”
Here’s a start: We’re at peace with ourselves and those around us.
It means we are spiritually centered.
We often, incorrectly, view peace as a destination rather than a deliberate-choice.
Peace of mind is a gift we choose right now, not a place to arrive or something earned in the future. proverbsforprofessionals.net
Today’s Observation: Peace of mind is a choice we make that’s not dependent upon something else happening.
The Precept: In Proverbs 3.2 we read that peace is one outcome of a precept-driven life.
How do you define peace of mind?
Building relationships is hard!
Maintaining relationships is harder.
The challenge? Finding common ground when:
1). Both partners are changing.
2). Situations are changing.
3). Other relationships are changing.
We want stability. Instead, we find that people are human. They make mistakes. Or, do things we disagree with. And say things that are deeply hurtful.
Sometimes, your friend/partner/family member takes a turn for the worse with bad habits, poor choices, or a destructive lifestyle.
“I will be happy when the relationship is better” is a trap that keeps us from enjoying the growth and fulfillment that’s available to us right now. proverbsforprofessionals.net
Today’s Observation: A relationship requires deep commitment by both partners. But, commitment alone isn’t a cure-all.
The Precept: From Proverbs 18.24 we learn that some friends are closer to us than family.
How have you dealt with relationship stress?
Who I am and relationships
Knowing myself builds better relationships.
How do I get there?
1). Build self-awareness; run with my strengths.
2). Grasp and value my self-worth.
3). Know my WHY – my life purpose.
We flourish by pursuing life purpose.
Life’s purpose is grounded in who we are right now, and in who we’re becoming.
That interplay between WHO and WHY brings character transformation.
I’m best positioned to be my authentic self when I’m self-aware enough to know who that true self really is! proverbsforprofessionals.net
Today’s Observation: When we understand WHO and pursue WHY we’re able to build strong relationships.
The Precept: Proverbs 22.24-25 warns that we can pick up bad habits from others, so be careful about who we build friendships with.
What impact has your self-awareness had on your ability to build relationships?
Introvert Tip: An Undiagnosed Condition!
Not knowing who you are is awkward.
I tried career paths that didn’t fit who I was.
Don’t live with an undiagnosed condition!
Instead, find out WHO you are. Take the MBTI or the Strengths Finder. There are others.
I’m my best self by knowing my life purpose, then doing that life purpose. Hence, live with purpose, on purpose! proverbsforprofessionals.net
Today’s Observation: It’s really hard to work on WHO you are if you don’t know WHO you are! So learn!
A poll: WHO are you on the MBTI? I’m an ISTJ.
You know you’re getting old when…
The waitress calls you sweetie!
It happened to me one week after I turned 50.
New hires are younger than your adult children!
This one hit me when signing the paperwork for hiring a new faculty member.
So, what signaled your advancing age?!
Don’t Be Haunted By Regrets
When haunted by regrets, we don’t forgive others or ourselves.
We mentally replay events, but it never gets better.
That self-talk is destructive.
As a result, we’re afraid to act. To move forward. There’s no growth.
Knowing the right thing to do, and doing the right thing, are two very different things! proverbsforprofessionals.net
Today’s Observation: Yes, something happened years ago. But we never left that spot emotionally. We’re still standing right there!
The Precept: Proverbs 14.3 discusses one reason for no movement, thus no growth – our foolish pride.
What’s helped you face regrets and move on?
