When I consciously learn from life experiences, I come to realize that experiential insight brings self-control.
The Precept Explained
So, how do I respond to attacks on my character?
And, what’s the time gap between the attack and my response?
More practically, how is experiential insight related to my ability to respond appropriately?
Well, the observation in Proverbs 14.29, paraphrased above, is a statement of fact. It says, those who have experiential insights can control their anger. As such, they enjoy the satisfaction of a good character.
Insight Brings Self-control
Ok, but how?
Truly, as I gain insights from experiences I become better at gauging intentions. Also, at not jumping to conclusions.
Plus, I become better at seeing how certain people operate.
How so? Because I draw from a toolbox of experiences. Then, I can respond wisely. Thus, without inciting a fight.
Leadership Insight
Now, knowing how to respond sounds great.
But, there are some people who really set me off! Just by walking into the room! Actually, you know who you are. Gee, I hope they’re not reading this!
So, experiential insight means I learn from experiences. Conversely, without that learning, the school of hard knocks doesn’t change me at all.
Fact is, no amount of experiential insight for a leader can overcome some broken relations. Or, fix my knee-jerk responses.
That is, I can be aware of my past outbursts. And, I can see that person reciting the same script … again. But, I must consciously choose to respond differently.
Self-awareness must be paired with self-control. Hence, sensing anger plus choosing not to express that anger!
Else, the outcome is the same as always.
Therefore, experiential insight is critical for an impactful leader. As is self-awareness and social awareness.
However, I must consciously choose self-control. Else, I lessen my impact as a leader.
Apply This Today!
Granted, emotional intelligence is important for an impactful leader. Why? Because self-awareness is of limited value unless paired with self-control.
Now, to deal with a “professional annoying person” specify a topic. Then, focus the conversation on that topic. Thus, you reduce the chances for purposeful redirection of the conversation.
Like the marriage counselor says, avoid “you always” and “you never…” in these stressful conversations.
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