In Proverbs 25.15 we learn about combining persistence and diplomacy. As such, resilience makes me more persuasive.
The Precept Explained
At times, persuasion requires persistence. Especially, when working up the chain of command.
In addition, I must be patient during negotiations, else I impatiently lose sight of my goal.
That said, the first half of Proverbs 25.15 focuses on persisting and on self-control.
As such, impactful leaders are patient.
Then, the second half of this comparison emphasizes diplomacy by using the term “soft tongue” that’s also used in Proverbs 15.1.
My life of faith should be marked by humility, patience, and self-restraint. Ephesians 4.2 paraphrase
Principled Persuasion
First, to be persuasive, I must stick with it.
Second, I must be self-controlled.
Third, I must be selective in what I say. But, without being deceptive.
The focus of Proverbs 25.15 is positive, since I’m trying to change an opinion.
But, the Hebrew word used for “persuaded” is at times translated in the negative. For instance, see Proverbs 1.10, 16.29, and 24.28. In each case it means to entice or deceive.
So, don’t be a deceptive leader!
Instead, be persuasive for the good!
Resilient Persuasion
As well, note that Proverbs 25.15 says that persuasion is a matter of persistence. Thus, there’s a need to be resilient.
Conversely, effective persuasion isn’t a matter of overpowering or deceiving others.
So, don’t be a bullying leader!
Leadership Insight
How do you tend to deal with those immediately above you in the organization? What’s your typical method of persuasion?
For instance, you have an idea or you are bringing a request.
On one hand, are you an extreme rational, bringing only facts and figures?
Conversely, do you look for an emotional connection by drawing others in with compelling stories?
As it turns out, this precept from Proverbs addresses neither of these common methods. Instead, it emphasizes that you may need to go back multiple times to get a ruling.
How many times? Well, it doesn’t say. However, you may have heard, as I have, “this is my last offer so don’t ask again!”
Clearly, that’s a signal that the negotiations are over!
In addition, I’ve learned not to keep a scorecard of wins and losses because that’s not what impactful leadership is all about.
Instead, it’s best to build a point of view that takes in the entire organization, not simply my operating unit.
Now, a warning. Ultimately, we live with the outcomes of what we request. For a long time! So, be careful what you ask for!
Apply This Today!
Resilience makes me more persuasive. However, I must be careful about where I choose to pursuade.
Moreover, impactful leaders understand that ethical persuasion isn’t about being forceful. And, it’s not about demanding my way.
Why? Because persuasion involves diplomacy that implies self-control, as well as discretion.
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