Often, I hear “So, what did you expect?” when there’s no change in the behavior I was trying to correct. However, without inner motivation, little change is likely.
Commands are often used. But, they’re not always successful. Why? because they don’t bring the desired change. Hence, the retort “So, what did you expect?” Actually, what I expected was for the other person to grasp my superior logic, that’s what!
The Essentials
Now, Proverbs 6.6-11 is a great example of a directive. Plus, a follow-up conversation.
Apparently, the first attempt in Proverbs 6.6 was unsuccessful. Thus, the second try in Proverbs 6.9. Guess what? Name calling – “sluggard” twice! – didn’t work!
Actually, the expectation was for behavior change. However, commands like this are unlikely to bring about a desired change. Why? Because what’s needed is self-motivation.
Unfortunately, commands often produce push-back. Most often, when dealing with someone who’s over-confident and self-consumed.
Conversely, Proverbs 6.7 notes the importance of self-motivation. There, we read “no guide, overseer, or ruler.”
Moreover, that self-motivation must be combined with foresight. How so? See the next verse, Proverbs 6.8. There, we read about the foresight to plan for the future.
Apply This Today!
Well, want to hear “So what did you expect?” Then, keep giving direct commands.
But, my motives are so pure! Oh, get over it!
Remember, outside a command-and-control organization, threats rarely work, especially when core beliefs are involved.
One option is to carefully consider who I’m speaking with. Also, what’s my objective for this conversation?
Next, I can ask myself what’s most essential regarding an outcome here?
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