I want to respond more appropriately! And, I can respond more appropriately! How? Behave wisely by being self-controlled. Read this blog post to learn more.
Being Self-controlled
Unfortunately, the more you say, the greater the chances of saying something bad!
So, what’s the solution? Simply, behave wisely by being self-controlled.
Actually, what we see here is the gap between good intention and effective execution!
But, why is it so hard to do this? Reasons include:
First, I’m determined to bite back.
Second, I have nothing to say. Then, I cover up by saying a lot!
Third, I lack self-control. Then, I don’t consider an appropriate response.
Now, is that hard? Well, you bet it is!
Pausing to respond is a carefully developed trait of an impactful leader. proverbsforprofessionals.net
Leadership Insight
Most critically, impactful leaders recognize that self-control is a developed trait.
In addition, they’re aware that the first-thing-to-mind is often the last thing they should say.
So, what’s the problem? For me personally, it’s problems – plural! For example:
1). A flash of anger.
2). Or, the ingrained habit of instantly responding instead of thoughtfully pausing.
3). And, an unwillingness to consider the possibility that I could be wrong!
4). Also, there might be other paths forward beside mine.
Ok, you get the picture!
Pair Proverbs 10.19 with Proverbs 17.27. Why? Because both use the same Hebrew word to explain how I should select my words carefully.
In fact, Proverbs 17.27 says a wise person has self-control. Consequently, he/she calls on experiential insight. Again, the assumption is that I pause, then call on that insight.
Apply This Today!
Self-control is an intentional choice I must make everyday, several times a day.
I choose to pause before responding in order to respond appropriately.
Pausing to respond is a learned trait, just like immediate, thoughtless responses are learned.
Building self-awareness enables me to better sense the mental and physical cues that trigger inappropriate responses.
Today’s Question: What’s worked well for you to develop measured responses that build your influence?