We cause ourself lots of problems by living without self-control. But, what’s our way out?
What’s the problem here?
So, what’s life like when living without self-control? That is, to have no self-restraints on our words or actions? In Proverbs 25.28 Solomon says a compete lack of self-restraint is like a defenseless city that is “…broken down, without walls.” Thus, any threat that comes along is an immediate and serious problem. The issue described in that verse is “…no rule over (our) own spirit” where “spirit” (Hebrew Ruach) speaks of our inner nature.
For positive examples of that inner nature, see Proverbs 11.13 – being a trustworthy confidant, and 16.19 – being humble. Some negative examples are Proverbs 14.29 “hasty” and 16.18 “haughty”. Whereas Proverbs 16.32 pairs self-control with the ability to take a city, Proverbs 25.28 pairs a lack of self-control with a defeated city. Ugh!
Truly, a lack of self-restraint has a far-reaching impact on our relationships, career, health, and finances. Worse yet, as described in Proverbs 23.35, a careless disregard for our own life is dangerously repetitive.
No self-control means no boundaries over our words or actions. Proverbs 25.28 paraphrase, proverbsforprofessionals.net
How did we get here?
Proverbs 25.28 is simply an observation. There’s no suggestion for fixing the problem; no “don’t be like that” warning! As such, we’re expected to recognize that this condition is inherently bad. Moreover, we’re to take action to fix it.
But, what’s the root problem here? A lack of self-control points to a low-level of emotional intelligence, or in Solomon’s terms “void of heart.” Thus, the person is self-consumed. They’re unaware of, and uncaring about, how their behavior impacts others. Their behavior is self-destructive, but they blame others for their broken-down walls.
Apply This Today!
A lack of self-restraint isn’t self-healing. Instead, that individual must seek out and respond to wise counsel.
Having no self-control suggests we stopped growing emotionally, likely years ago, before we developed much needed self-awareness and interpersonal sensitivity.
A Question to Consider
If you know this person, how do you deal with them? Offer some suggestions in a comment.
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