An impactful friendship has three traits that add value to the relationship.
Consistent and Close
One trait of an impactful friendship is consistency, hence Proverbs 17.17 “A friend loves at all times …” Love here is like a parent for a child or a husband for his wife (see Genesis 22.2 and Genesis 24.67).
The phrase “… at all times …” acknowledges that friendships are enjoyable sometimes, while challenging at other times. Without this commitment between friends, the relationship will be shallow and dependent on circumstances.
Verse 17 compares friends with family. Thus, a second trait is the closeness that’s inherent in impactful friendships.
Enduring friendships survive good times and bad. Proverbs 17.17 paraphrase. proverbsforprofessionals.net
Be Counted On
Beyond consistency and closeness, a third trait is how a friendship responds to calamity.
It’s inevitable that problems will arise in life. In those times of distress, a friend or brother will step up to help, thus we read “… born for adversity.”
Fact is, impactful friendships are faithful, giving, and forgiving. Will there be offenses? Of course. But a resilient friendship doesn’t assume malice, or hold a grudge. Instead, the friend can be depended on at all times.
Actually, when problems arise, the friendship can get over itself and move on! The phrase “… is born for …” in Proverbs 17.17 suggests purpose. Intention. A reason why.
“Born for” answers the question “What are friends and family for?” The verb “born” (Hebrew Yalad) is passive here, thus stepping up in time of need is expected. Being counted on comes with the relationship, rather than something that’s accidental.
Apply This Today!
We should be deliberate about building impactful friendships. However, we must recognize there’s no impact without carrying out the responsibilities that come with those friendships.
Our past experiences are an aspect of what we bring to the table in a friendship. We have something to share because of what we’ve been through already. Share that!
One way to develop sensitivity in a friendship is to ask “What can I do for them?” Or, alternatively be thinking “What can I offer this person?”
A Question to Consider
Sharing with friends is a time investment, thus a reflection of our priorities. What criteria do you use to decide when and where to invest in friendships?
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