When we come to a dead end we’re at a loss as to how to proceed. We ask “Where to from here?” So, how do we move forward?
What just happened?
At times we fail. We tried something that didn’t work. Worse yet, we’re struggling with how to proceed.
We’re not clear what’s happened. We know we’re at a dead end. And, we must move forward.
But, what to do? Yes, it’s tough being here. We’re angry, frustrated, and a whole bunch of other negatives!
Ok, where to from here?
Changing Your Mindset
Unfortunately, there’s no magical formula for digging out of a failure.
While it’s good to learn from experience, that learning may not happen immediately. Instead, “immediately” includes strained relationships, a negative cash flow, and the panic of believing “these things always happen to me!”
With no miracle cure, we need to adjust our mindset.
Why? Because it’s important to clear the fog. How? First, change your mindset – choose to get moving. Second, identify next steps.
Next Steps
Here’s a process for moving forward after a failure.
1). For starters, remember past successes. That clears mental and emotional fog.
2). Next, recall finding a way forward from previous screw-ups. Ha – certainly this current situation isn’t your first failure! Use prior recoveries to counteract your negative outlook and offer suggestions for what’s next.
3). Now, create one positive step forward. You don’t need a 100-page, 5-year strategy. Do that one thing that gets you moving. That first step builds momentum while providing insights for the second step.
A Personal Example
Ah, where to start? So many setbacks to choose from! Let’s go with my mid-life career pivot.
I was in an entry-level job for five years that was benefitted and paid Ok. However, I didn’t see a path for professional growth. Instead, I’d likely be doing the same thing for years.
We made a career change. We relocated. It was a risk that didn’t pan out. The expected earnings never materialized. After a job search, we made a transition that was Ok at first, but I wasn’t a good fit for that job. Thus, a second dead end in a few years.
Now what? I spent some difficult months examining my strengths. We considered options. And talked to a number of people for ideas. Then, we made a decision.
Again, a bit of a risk but a successful mid-life career transition. The short version is I got a Ph.D., and became a college professor and administrator for thirty years.
Proverbs 24.16 says that through strength of character we can fail multiple times, but continue to rise up again. proverbsforprofessionals.net
Apply This Today!
It’s Ok struggle with a setback. But, it’s not Ok to stay there. Get help – get moving!
After a major failure, remind yourself “I’m better than this.” Over time, we must build our self-worth if we’re to pivot and flourish.
Get help. Look outside yourself. I’ve mentioned “we” several times. Your spouse is in this with you, so allow him/her to come alongside you. If you’re a person of faith, don’t overlook your single greatest asset – divine guidance.
A Question to Consider
If you’re stuck in a crisis ask yourself who will be both a comforting encourager and a stern motivator. Those conversations are a first step forward. Who is that person for you?
I’m Dale Young. My posts share the balanced life to build wise character and guide wise behavior.
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