Hard lessons demand a hearing ear and a learning heart. Thus, the importance of learning to say it right!
Good Intentions, Bad Delivery
When communicating, delivery and timing are often as important as content.
We hear this principle loudly in Proverbs 27.14, where the intentions are good (“… bless his friend …”).
Unfortunately, the delivery (“… with a loud voice …”) and the timing (“… early in the morning …”) are bad! Worse yet, the outcome (“… counted a curse …”) is terrible!
Don’t expect a positive response when yelling at someone early in the morning! Proverbs 27.14 paraphrase. proverbsforprofessionals.net
Tone and Timing
When we lack discretion in how we say things, and are insensitive about the appropriate time to share, we dilute the value of what we’re sharing.
But, when we’re thoughtful and controlled about how and when we share concerns with friends, we improve the chances of our words falling on a listening ear.
Proverbs 27.14 uses the word “friend” (Hebrew Rea), which indicates an existing relationship. A friendship is a positive start to the conversation. However, that friendship cannot guarantee effective delivery of our concerns if we lack competence in how we communicate.
Truly, being loud, hence bossy, is no way to influence others!
Our direct speaking for the betterment of others Proverbs 27.6 tells friends the hard truth and Proverbs 27.9 give others advice deep from our soul. proverbsforprofessionals.net
Saying It Right!
Conversely, we improve our influence with friends when our tone is tempered, our timing is appropriate, and what we have to say is relevant to what’s happening in that friend’s life.
In short: think before you speak. And, don’t be a big mouth! Moreover, remember that saying “I meant well” will not cover for a glaring deficiency in delivery.
Yes, this is a harsh lesson for us to learn. But, getting these basics right builds our influence.
Close friendships feature conversations that both hurt and heal! Proverbs 27.6 paraphrase proverbsforprofessionals.net
Apply This Today!
Who can tell us we’re a big mouth? A friend! In fact, hearing about this problem is an example of the “… faithful … wounds of a friend ,,,” Proverbs 27.6.
Hearing we’re a big mouth is a hard conversation that has a significant impact on us. That is, if we listen and respond appropriately.
It is good for us to get deep counsel from someone who has been there and done that – even when it hurts to hear what they are saying!
A Question to Consider
You offer a supportive suggestion and the other person says “That’s just the way I am.” Ok, how do you respond?
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